When you spread your legs. What do crossed legs say? And so, let's transgress

Body language. When we talk about non-verbal body language, we pay a lot of attention to facial expressions, eyes and hands, but for some reason our legs are undeservedly offended by us. But in vain!

The further away from the brain a part of the body is, the more difficult it is to control it. If a person can adapt and portray the emotion he needs on his face and more or less control his hands, then everyone forgets about the legs and they give us away with their heads.

"If you're not sure if the person sitting at the table is telling the truth, look under the table."
Allan Pease "The New Body Language"

So let's go through the basic leg poses. Immediately I want to draw your attention to the fact that women and men will have different movements.

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Four basic standing positions

1. Attention

This posture means that you are listening attentively and the interlocutor, most likely, is lower in rank than you. Usually, this is how students stand in front of teachers and subordinates in front of their superiors.

2. Spread legs

This posture is predominantly male. In this position, the man stands firmly on the ground and feels confident.

3. One leg forward

From this position it is very easy to determine the intentions of a person. Usually, in which direction the toe is pointed, in that direction the person intends to move. Being in the company, we will point the sock at the most pleasant interlocutor for us. And if a person feels uncomfortable, then the toe of the exposed leg will most likely be directed to the nearest exit.

4. Crossing the legs

Crossed legs and arms are almost always evidence that a person has closed himself off from everyone and has entered a protective pose. It is quite difficult to reach such a person and it is unlikely that he will easily accept your arguments.

Also, this pose is usually taken in a society of unfamiliar people. You can conduct an interesting experiment - approach a group of strangers and stand next to them in a defensive pose. Almost immediately after that, people will begin to cross their arms one by one. This posture is highly contagious and conveys a certain unease and sense of danger.

Frozen or defensive?

It is always necessary to interpret body language in context. Sometimes people justify their crossed arms and legs by saying that they are cold or want to go to the bathroom. In some cases, this is true, and in some they are just hiding behind a convenient explanation.

In fact, if a person is really cold, he will not only cross his arms, but also hide his fingers under his armpits, and not just wrap them around his elbows. We also cross our legs, but at the same time we try to straighten them and press them tightly against each other. The defensive posture is more relaxed and calm.

If a person says that it’s just convenient for him to stand, most likely he almost always feels as if there are only enemies around.

"American Four"

This posture is for men. A person sitting in such a position is perceived not only as more powerful and energetic, but also as younger. A person sitting in this position is likely to consider himself superior to you and is unlikely to immediately agree with your point of view.

If, having taken this position, a person also secures the raised leg with his hands, this means that she is determined to stand her ground and will in every possible way resist pressure from outside.

Research has shown that most people make their final decision when both feet are firmly planted on the ground. So do not rush your interlocutor to make a decision if one of his soles does not touch the floor.

Ankle crossing

Crossed ankles indicate that your interlocutor is suppressing negative emotions and disagreement and is trying to cope with them. This gesture can be equated with biting the lip.
Usually people sit like this at the reception of dentists, lawyers and tax inspectors.

short skirt syndrome

Usually girls who wear mini skirts sit like this. Despite their length, they give women an impregnable and not very friendly look, since you have to sit all the time, tightly squeezing your legs. People subconsciously interpret this gesture as negative, and treat the interlocutor with caution.

Leg interlacing

This is a purely feminine gesture. Usually modest and insecure girls twist their legs this way. It is unlikely that a strong pressure will fit here. In order to talk to such a person, you need to be open and friendly.

Parallelism

Looking at this picture, I immediately remember "Basic Instinct" and Sharon Stone sitting in a chair. This fit is considered very feminine and 86% of men found it the most attractive. This is how models are taught to sit.

Right foot forward, right foot back

Man is given legs to perform two basic actions - to catch up with prey and run away from danger. If a person is interested in you, during the conversation he will expose right leg forward (the left-hander will most likely expose the left) in order to reduce the distance between you. If he is not in the mood for a conversation, then most likely he will put his right foot back, as if preparing for a retreat.

And the last! Tip for business ladies - do not cross your legs in business meetings if you are wearing a skirt that opens your hips. The sight of women's thighs can excite almost any man. As a result, he will remember your hips, but not the topic of the conversation.

And men should be more restrained and not fall apart on chairs, legs apart in different sides. A restrained pose with knees together would be more appropriate.

Based on the book by Barbara and Alan Pease “The New Body Language. Extended Version»

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Like protective barriers formed with the help of the arms, crossing the legs is a sign of a negative or defensive attitude of a person.

Crossing the arms over the chest was originally associated with the function of protecting the heart area and chest, and crossing the legs is an attempt to protect the genital area. In addition, crossing the arms indicates a more negative mood than crossing the legs, and crossed arms are more conspicuous. Care must be taken in interpreting this gesture in women, because in childhood they were taught to sit like that because "ladies sit like that." Unfortunately, this manner can be interpreted as an attempt at defense.

There are two main cross-legged postures in sitting position- (classic) standard laying of the legs on the leg and the position when the thrown leg resembles the number "4".

European way of cross-legging

One foot rests neatly on top of the other, usually right on left - this is the normal cross-legged position used by Europeans and can be used to express an agitated state, a reserved or defensive stance. This, however, is one of the subsidiary gestures, which is accompanied by other negative gestures, and should not be interpreted out of context. For example, people often sit cross-legged during lectures or when sitting for long periods in uncomfortable chairs. Often people use this gesture in cold weather. When the crossed leg is also accompanied by the crossing of arms over the chest, this means that the person has "disconnected" from the conversation. It would be foolish for a salesman to even try to ask a buyer in this position about his decision, and you should ask a few follow-up questions to clarify his objections. This position is very popular with women all over the world, especially if they want to express their dissatisfaction with a husband or friend.

Throwing a leg over the leg with the formation of an angle

This way of cross-legging indicates that there is a spirit of rivalry and contradiction. This sitting style is very popular among American males who have a fighting disposition. Therefore, when dealing with the Americans, it is difficult to determine whether they put any meaning into this gesture or not, but with the British there is no such problem.

I recently attended a series of meetings attended by 100 managers and 500 sales people. A very controversial issue was discussed - the attitude of the corporation towards its sales agents. One person from the agent team, known to the audience for his reputation as a "ringleader", was asked to speak. As soon as he got up to the podium, all the managers, without exception, took up a defensive posture. This meant that they were wary of the ideas they thought the speaker was about to come up with. Their fears were well founded. This salesman ranted about the poor quality of management in most of the corporations in the industry and said he thought it was leading to staffing problems. During his speech, the rest of the salesmen leaned forward, which shows strong interest. Many made appraisal gestures, but the managers steadfastly maintained a defensive stance. The speaker then changed the subject, giving his opinion on what the relationship between the two parties should be like. Immediately, as if by the movement of a conductor's baton, the position of the managers changed to an argumentative-opposing one. It was obvious that they internally disagreed with the opposing side's point of view, and later many confirmed that this was exactly the case. I noticed, however, that several managers did not take this stance. After the meeting, I asked them why they didn't, and they explained that although they also disagreed with the speaker, they couldn't sit cross-legged because of their obesity or arthritis.

It would be unreasonable for a sales agent to end the presentation and ask about the order if the buyer has adopted such a pose. He should speak frankly to the buyer, leaning forward, palms up, and say: "I see - you have some ideas about this. I would be interested to know your opinion." And then lean back, indicating that it's the buyer's turn to speak out on the issue. This gives the buyer the opportunity to express their opinion. Sometimes women, if they are wearing trousers or jeans, can sit down with their legs crossed so that bent leg resembles the number "4".

Laying the legs on the leg with the fixation of the leg with the hands

A person with a quick reaction, who is very difficult to convince in an argument, often sits with his legs crossed and his arms wrapped around his leg.

This is a sign of a hard, stubborn person who needs a special approach to achieve a common language.

Crossed legs in a standing position.

The next time you're in a meeting or reception, notice a small group of people standing with their legs crossed and their arms folded across their chests. On observation, you will see that they all stand at a much greater distance from each other than is customary and, if they are wearing a jacket or jacket, the buttons will be tightly buttoned. If you asked these people, you would find that either one of them or all of them do not know each other. This is how people stand when there is a stranger among them.

Now look at another small group where people are standing with relaxed arms, open palms, unbuttoned jackets, relaxed facial expressions, resting on one leg while the other leg is turned toe towards the other members of the group. All members of this group easily penetrate each other's intimate zones. On close observation, it becomes clear that the people in this group are personally acquainted with each other or are friends. It is interesting to note that people standing with their arms and legs crossed may have a non-tense facial expression and seem to have a conversation that flows easily and naturally, but their posture suggests that they are tense or insecure.

The next time you join a group of strangers standing in an open, friendly manner, stand in a cross-legged pose with your arms folded across your chest. One by one, the rest of the group will also assume this pose and will remain in this position until you move away from them. Then step aside and watch as, one by one, the members of the group return to their original open posture.

Relaxation stages of a tense posture

As soon as people begin to feel comfortable and close to others, they obey an unwritten law, according to which the protective posture changes to an open, relaxed one.

Stage 1. Protective posture, arms and legs crossed.
Stage 2. The legs are no longer crossed and the feet are in a neutral position.
Stage 3. The hand on top emerges from the castle of hands, the palm flickers during the conversation, but does not return to the castle.
Stage 4. The arms are already open, and one hand is gesturing freely, it can go to the thigh or into the pocket.

Stage 5. One person puts his foot back and the other foot forward so that it points to the person he is interested in with his toe.

Under the influence of alcohol, this process may be faster, or some stages may be lost.

Protected - or maybe frozen?

Many people claim that they cross their arms and legs not because they feel the need to defend themselves, but simply because they are cold. This is just a pretext, and it's interesting to note that there is a difference between a person in a defensive posture and a frozen person.

First of all, if a person wants to warm his hands, he usually pushes them under his armpit, and does not put them under his elbows, as is the case with the defensive posture.

Second, when a person freezes, he can wrap his arms around himself. If his legs are crossed, they are usually straight, tense and tightly pressed together, which will be different from the more relaxed position of the legs in a defensive posture.

People who have the habit of crossing their arms and legs prefer. claim that they are either cold or just feel much more comfortable in this position. They find it hard to admit that they are nervous, shy, or defensive about negative feelings.

Ankles pressed together

Arms crossed or folded across the chest, legs crossed suggest that the person is in a defensive or negative state, but the same can be expressed with ankles brought together. In men, tight ankles are usually combined with tightly clenched fists resting on the knees, or hands may dig into the arms of a chair. The female version is slightly different: the knees are brought together, the legs can be tilted to one side, the hands are either parallel to each other on the knees, or one hand is on top of the other.

More than a decade of experience in dealing with people during business negotiations has shown that when your interlocutor clamps his ankles, this is tantamount to "biting his lip." With this gesture, negative attitudes, unpleasant emotions, fear or excitement are restrained. For example, a lawyer friend of mine told me that he often noticed that when giving evidence in the investigator's office, all the people involved in the case were sitting with their ankles tightly pressed together. He also noticed that at this moment they are ready to say something important, or trying to control their emotional state.

When interviewing applicants for a vacant position, we noticed that most of them at some point in the interview made sure to make this gesture, from which it was clear that they were holding back their excitement. When we began to study the nature of this gesture, we found that talking about a person’s inner experiences does not help relax his ankles, and, accordingly, his thoughts. But then we noticed that if the interviewer came up to the visitor's table and sat next to him so that they were not separated by the table, the legs immediately relaxed, and the conversation took on a frank, more personal character.

We recently advised a firm on how to effectively use the telephone to communicate with clients. We happened to be talking to a young man whose job it was to call customers who didn't pay their bills. We watched him work and although his voice sounded relaxed, we noticed that his ankles were pressed tightly together. I asked: "Do you like this job?" He replied: "Oh yes, this is a wonderful job," However, what was said did not correspond to his non-verbal signals, although he spoke very convincingly. "Are you sure?" I asked. After a short pause, he relaxed his legs, turned to me, and, opening his palms, said: "In fact, she drives me crazy!" He further told me that during conversations some clients were rude to him, and he had to restrain his emotions so that his condition was not transmitted to other "clients. It is interesting to note that those sales representatives who do not like talking on the phone sit in a pose with clenched ankles.

Renowned negotiating scholars Nirenberg and Calero found that when one participant held his ankles during a negotiation, it meant that he was "pinching" the price concession. They found that by using negotiation techniques, they could influence a partner to open their ankles and make a concession.

Some people claim to have a habit of sitting with their ankles pinned (or in any of the crossed arms and legs positions) because it makes them feel comfortable. If you are also one of these people, note that your arms and legs will feel comfortable when you take a defensive, negative or reserved posture. Given that a negative gesture can reinforce and prolong negative emotions, and that other people may perceive that you are negative, I would advise you to learn how to use positive and open gestures to strengthen your self-confidence and improve relationships with other people.

Women who were teenagers in the miniskirt era and wore a miniskirt clenched their legs and ankles for obvious reason. Due to this habit, many women still sit in this position, which can be misinterpreted by others: people may be wary of them. Therefore, before drawing any conclusions, it is important to take into account the trends in women's fashion, in particular, how this affects the position of the woman's legs.

Fixation of the foot of one leg on the lower leg of the other

This gesture is used almost exclusively by women. The sole of one leg wraps around the other leg to reinforce the defensive position. And when this gesture appears, you can be sure that the woman internally shrank and went into herself, like a turtle under a shell. A gentle, friendly, and warm approach is required if you hope to open this clamp. This behavior is typical for shy and modest women. I remember a case when a young insurance agent tried to take out insurance for a young married couple. This attempt was unsuccessful, and he could not understand why it failed: he seemed to follow all the rules of the sale. I pointed out to him that he did not notice how the woman sat with her leg tightly wrapped around her leg throughout the conversation. If the insurance agent paid attention to this gesture, he could interest her in the benefits of such insurance and achieve better results.

Why legs can be considered the most important source of information? Everything is very simple - to guess about the emotions of a person that he is trying to hide, without special training according to facial microexpressions without special training, it is very difficult, a person can also control his hands with grief in half, but leg position control is very difficult due to the fact that the further away a part of the body is, the less we are aware of its actions.

Let's now look at the various leg positions and their meanings:

1. Position attention. This is a formal position that displays neutral behavior with no intention of leaving or staying. With such position, legs located together, socks slightly apart, hands at the seams. This position is constantly used in the army, when junior ranks stand in front of a senior officer, or subordinates stand in front of their superior.

2. Position"spaced legs". Similar position characteristic mainly of men. This is a kind of demonstration of the groin. In this position, the man confidently stands with two feet on the ground, showing by his appearance that he does not intend to run away. With all his appearance, he transmits a signal of dominance to others, the effect of this position can be enhanced by hands on the belt buckle. For women, such a position would be perceived as unnatural and masculine.

3. Position"one leg put forward." In this position body weight is concentrated on one leg, and the second leg pushed forward. Such leg position immediately makes it clear the intentions of the person, because we usually point the sock where we would like to go. If you are talking enthusiastically with a person, and his toe is pointing towards, for example, a door, then he would not mind leaving now. On the other hand, if the sock is pointed at you, this is a sign that the person is just as passionate about the conversation as you are.

4. Position"crossed legs". If spaced legs demonstrate openness and dominance, then legs crossed ones show a closed, submissive or defensive mood. Similar position taken when a person experiences stress or certain inconveniences, for example, is in an unfamiliar company. Most often, such a person will stand a little distant from the main group. If a person is not comfortable to such an extent that he cannot get out of this
condition, it is very likely that he will also have his arms folded across his chest. In such an augmented position a person is closed from communication and practically does not perceive information at all. Crossed arms are a barrier with which a person protects himself from the outside world. Such hands can be interpreted a little differently - in childhood, when it was hard for us, our mother hugged us, which was an incentive to calm down. Crossed arms are a sign that a person is trying to hug himself, and, accordingly, calm himself and pull himself together, he is completely focused on himself and perceives the outside world poorly.

5. Position"crossing legs while sitting" has the same meaning as crossing legs when standing, although in this case there is more concentration of a person, he will weigh every word that he says. This leg position is very common in Europe and Asia. True, if a person begins to "kick" the air foot- this means that you asked him an uncomfortable
question, and he wants you to leave as soon as possible. Again, crossing the arms over the chest gives position the same value as in the standing position.

6. Position The American Four is leg position when alone leg stands on the floor, and the second is thrown onto the support leg. This is a demonstration of the groin area, which emphasizes the person's confidence. This position can be strengthened with the help of hands:

The man leaned back in his chair and put both hands behind his head - this is
a sign that the person is confident and shows dominance.

A man embraces with both hands leg- this is a signal that a person is determined and intends to stand his ground to the bitter end.

The fingers of a person's hands form a spire - this means that the person is concentrated and self-confident.

7. Position"crossing the ankles" while sitting means that the person is unfaithful in himself or scared - he is not comfortable. Position can be enhanced as follows:

The ankles are removed under a chair or armchair, in this case the body is served
a little forward, as if saying to the interlocutor: "I'm scared / I'm not comfortable,
don't you see it?"

Hands hold on squeezing the arms of the chair - this means that a person, no matter what, is trying to take control of himself.

8. Position"engagement legs"sitting is an exclusively feminine gesture that cannot be reproduced by men for a reason
physiology. This female position means modesty and intimidation, with this position of the legs, she is unlikely to be talkative.

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9. Position "legs stand confidently on the floor "sitting - a neutral position in which the legs are parallel to each other completely
feet are on the floor, it can acquire the appropriate shade depending on the following factors:

H oga or both legs tapping on the floor - this means that the person is not comfortable, and he does not mind leaving the room;

-leg begins to "kick" the floor - you are not pleasant to a person, and he would be glad if you left;

The fingers form a "spire" - a person is confident in himself and his words;

The fingers are clasped - the person is nervous, he is not comfortable, or he is hiding something;

Arms crossed on chest - a person is confident in himself, but does not agree with your
point of view - such a composite gesture has an exclusively negative
subtext.

I hope that such articles will help you think and be attentive, because there are many things that are not only important to see, but most importantly to understand what they mean.

Only 30% of the information about the interlocutor a person receives through verbal communication, the remaining 70% can be read by his movements. A careless wave of the hand, an averted look - all the information that broadcasts what the person is silent about. Even the position of the legs can tell a lot about the interlocutor. The article will consider 5 positions of the legs that are most common. I wonder what secrets they will tell?

Knees together, heels apart

How do our feet betray our innermost thoughts? If a person sits with his knees together and feet apart (position A), then this indicates his scrupulousness and indecision. Most of these people are introverts. They are uncomfortable in the company of strangers. They are well aware of their shortcomings and are upset that they cannot do anything about it.

Such people tend to overestimate their capabilities, but they perfectly understand others, they can help to look at someone else's problem from the outside and analyze it.

Leg to leg

For boys and girls, cross-legged (position B) means that they are absolutely confident in their abilities. They find opportunities where others see only obstacles. These are leaders who are ready to bite anyone's throat for the sake of a career. Vivid emotions, changing places, unexpected events - that's their element. Such people are killed by boredom and monotony, they are rarely seen in the role of boring office clerks. They are winners who always achieve their goals.

But it is also worth noting that if a person not only crossed his legs, but also crossed his arms over his chest, then he does not subconsciously demonstrate the quality of his personality at all, but simply tries to isolate himself from the conversation. Communication with an opponent is unpleasant for him and causes obvious discomfort. This is how our feet betray our innermost thoughts.

Knees apart and heels together

People who are wrongly accused of being sloppy and lacking discipline usually sit with their knees apart and their feet together (position C). These people can be called special. They have their own order and their own outlook on life. Such people cannot focus on one thing for a long time and are often distracted.

If a person sits with his knees apart and his ankles crossed, then this means that he suppresses negative emotions in himself or expresses his disagreement.

Everything is symmetrical

If a person simply sits with his legs straight (position D), then this indicates his sincerity and straightforwardness. Usually such a pose characterizes pedants well, who need accuracy and perfect order in everything. In communication, such people can be cold, not show their real emotions, but this is just a mask. In fact, they are very kind and, as they say, have a heart of gold.

If a person has one leg straight, and he threw the other on the armrest of the chair, then this indicates his looseness. If a person is comfortable with such a position, it means that he feels his superiority over others and does not hesitate to show it. Perhaps he does not show by other gestures and conversation that he feels superior, but since his legs betray our innermost thoughts, he will no longer be justified.

Legs moved together

If a person not only put his feet directly on the floor, but also tightly squeezed them together and directed them a little to the side (position E), then this indicates his sensitivity and restraint in the manifestation of emotions. Such people react sharply to criticism, they are sensitive, take everything too close to their hearts.

There is a female version of this position - intertwined legs. Usually very modest and insecure girls sit like this. They will maintain an open and friendly conversation, but if they feel pressure from the outside, they will immediately try to leave.

As practice shows, the farther away from the brain is a part of the body, the less a person is aware of what is happening to it. If in the process of evolution people have learned to depict the necessary emotions on their faces and control the movements of their hands, then everything is not so simple with their legs. And since the legs betray our innermost thoughts, they must be constantly monitored. What if someone finds out more about us than they need to?

Misunderstandings between the sexes can be avoided in many cases by knowing each other's "body language". Now you have the opportunity to get acquainted with some of the features relating to the sexual behavior of women and men. This knowledge will help you in all situations where you need to communicate with the opposite sex - from the office to a romantic party.

Don't be surprised if you recognize yourself in what you read. Perhaps you will see how you yourself have misunderstood the actions of the opposite sex, made yourself suffer and upset others. It is no secret that a misunderstanding of male and female behavior leads to emotional conflicts and spiritual devastation. Now you can do something about it.

Sexual characteristics exist in the sexual gestures of women and men. If a man, as a rule, wants to please one particular woman, then a woman often wants to please all the men present.

There are a lot of sexual gestures. Most of them have their counterparts in the animal kingdom and we inherited from our monkey ancestors.

The following sexual gestures are characteristic of a woman:

• Feeling male look, makes a movement with his hand to straighten clothes, hair, smooth hair or just touch it.
• A sudden movement of the head to toss the hair from the face or from the shoulders to the back. Even women with short hair instinctively use this gesture.
• Periodic tossing of the head, and then a slight tilt to the side.
• While walking, the back is straight, the chest is exposed forward, the hips sway rhythmically.
• In a sitting position - slowly crossing and straightening the legs.
• Hand stroking the calf, knee, thigh.
• Slightly spread legs, regardless of the position of the woman (standing or sitting).
• Crossed ankles.
• Slow crossover and slow return.
• In a sitting position, one leg is bent under itself - such a position, as it were, says to the man: "I feel comfortable in your presence."
• The swaying of the shoes on the tips of the fingers also indicates that the woman is comfortable around this man.
• With these movements, the toe of the shoe or the tip of the knee is directed towards the person in whom she is interested.
• Demonstration of the wrist - a woman interested in a potential sexual partner will periodically show him the smooth delicate skin of her wrists.
• Expanded chest.
• An intimate look, as well as a slightly sidelong look, combined with a smile.
• She smiles slightly, then lowers her eyelids and looks away (“coquette look”).
• Slightly open mouth, wet lips.
• Quiet low voice.
• Stroking a cylindrical object (cigarettes, glass legs).
• If a woman really likes a man, she, as if by chance, tries to sit closer to him than to the others.
• When talking to him, he leans forward more than a man.
• Interest is indicated by eye contact when a woman sits in front of a man and looks him straight in the eye. (sometimes can also be interpreted as hostile and aggressive behavior).
• Examining herself in the mirror in the presence of a man: turning or looking at herself from the side, constantly spinning in front of the mirror, even if she is talking on the phone.
• Demonstrative use of lipstick in the presence of men (instinctive imitation of reddened labia of a sexually aroused woman).

Men have their own sexual gestures:

• The legs are widely spaced, regardless of whether the man is standing or sitting. It is clearly visible in the metro, where men, especially young ones, often sit opposite women with their legs wide apart, as if demonstrating their “household” (demonstrating the genital area to a female is a biological instinct in many primates).
• The gaze does not stop at the face, but glides over the entire body of the woman, “undressing” it (an intimate look).
• The palms rest on the hips.
• The thumbs are plugged into the belt (belt) or stick out of the pockets of the jacket, trousers, jacket.
• He straightens his hair, tie, shirt collar, jacket lapels with his hand, touches his throat.
• When a woman appears, she straightens her shoulders, plays with her muscles, and stretches.
• The chin moves up and down.
• Drinks are stirred with the whole hand from the shoulder - as if kneading clay
• Walks back and forth.
• In the sitting position, the legs are extended.

Common sexual gestures for men and women are:

• Putting your thumbs in your belt or purse, in your pockets.
• One or both hands on hips.
• Legs are wider apart than usual.
• An extended intimate look or a glance sideways furtively.
• If, when looking at you, a person’s pupils expand, then you are attractive to him, if they narrow, you have no chance.
• The first eye-to-eye look lasts no more than 4-5 seconds. then look down.
• Women mainly look at the shoulders and arms, and if possible, then at the legs and buttocks. Men first evaluate the whole figure, the style of clothing, and, finally, their eyes fall on the chest, then on the waist and hips.
• Increased eye contact (more than two-thirds of the time of communication).
• General revival, increase muscle tone, straightening the body when an object of interest appears.
• When an object of interest invades the intimate area, the body does not move away.
• When future lovers feel comfortable together, they turn towards each other in such a way that the lines of their shoulders are parallel.
• Copy gestures of the object of interest. he crosses his legs - she too; she leans to the left - he too; he smoothes his hair - she repeats his gesture. At the same time, they move in a common rhythm and look into each other's eyes.

The listed sexual gestures can be shown to several potential partners at the same time, then their response signals are recorded. Often, of the possible partners, the one who makes the most reciprocal sexual gestures is selected. The choice happens unconsciously: just a more "responsive" partner begins to like more than others.